Dr. Bevan-Lee covers the basic definition and core symptoms of Codependence in this first
part of a two part lecture from one of the Legacy Center workshops. The impacts of
parent/child relationship dynamics are explored and associated with varying states of
emotional development.
Healing Heart Workshop Pt. 2
In this second part of the workshop, Dr. Bevan-Lee takes audience questions about
relationships, faith, perceived emotional realities, and how they affect issues of
codependency. The open question format gives a sense of the personable atmosphere of
Legacy Center workshops.
Trauma, Codependence and Addiction
This lecture is taken from the Spring Into Recovery conference, which featured Dr. Bevan-Lee
as the keynote speaker. Recorded on April 2, 2011, this lecture covers the early childhood
roots of Codependency, methods for determining if a person is Codependent, the importance of
stating a person's reality, the psychological roots of addiction, and more.
Relationships Are Hard Work
March 19th, 2012
“Relationships are hard work.”…. I don’t share this belief. I hear people say this simple
statement frequently. I would suggest that if your relationship is “hard work”, you might
want to make it easier on yourself by reframing your basic beliefs about relationship. Here
are some simple ideas that could help you in your relationship. When you get up in the
morning, think about your partner and say to yourself “I love my partner and I know that
he/she is doing the best that he/she can do”. Keep this thought with you through the day
and particularly when your partner is tweaking you. By the way, if you do not believe that
your partner is doing the best that they can do every day that is another issue for you to
address to yourself. Another idea would be to reserve 20 – 30 minutes in the evening, after
dinner, after the kids are in bed or are otherwise occupied and before you go to bed.
During this time, share your day with one another with some attention paid to the feelings
that accompanied your daily events. This is not a time to process or challenge…just share
and say thank you….when you are listening, listen with curiosity and when you are sharing,
speak to be known.
Nurture your relationship. By doing so, the children will thrive and your life together
can grow and stay vital.
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